tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post4704164633208161165..comments2015-08-04T11:22:09.720-05:00Comments on Reading, Writing, and Rambling: Out with the Toxic, In with the TruePat O'Dea Rosenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18221195882816387110noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-78033659153805479022013-01-07T09:33:47.716-06:002013-01-07T09:33:47.716-06:00I think it's great advice to pick 7 people to ...I think it's great advice to pick 7 people to focus on. Even though it's a little easier to say no than it was when I was younger, I must admit it helps to say I'm too busy (with my non toxic friends). :) Coleen Patrickhttp://coleenpatrick.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-39237108928280783852013-01-06T07:22:15.313-06:002013-01-06T07:22:15.313-06:002012 was pretty toxic for me. Whew, it's over...2012 was pretty toxic for me. Whew, it's over and I'm looking forward to a healthier and less toxic new year. I did manage to get rid of a toxic situation for me (stepping down from the management-type of role that I had). So far it's proven to be a very good move. Helping seven non-toxic people - I don't think I can pick them out in advance. Yes, toxic people surround me, but working 4 10 hour shifts that turn into 11 because of the transit time means I don't have any flexibility to help those days at all. But I can randomly help 7 non-toxic people at my day job - I think I've been doing that kind of thing for a long time. :) So this year, my goal is to FOCUS on the manuscripts I've got in the works, get at least the two novellas in digital form and at least one novel DONE. :>Lynette M Burrowshttp://www.lynettemburrows.com/lynettesblognoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-9501214578982963292013-01-05T16:24:09.266-06:002013-01-05T16:24:09.266-06:00my challenge is recognizing the toxicity in some o...my challenge is recognizing the toxicity in some of the 'gurus' on the web. I have to remember to honor myself and the people I've met through the gurus and ignore their insanity. LOLLouise Behielhttp://www.louisebehiel.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-23952725727683732372013-01-04T16:54:21.933-06:002013-01-04T16:54:21.933-06:00Lark! I knew you'd love the French Word a Day ...Lark! I knew you'd love the French Word a Day blog. Pat O'Dea Rosenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18221195882816387110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-57299139541734422952013-01-04T16:53:06.376-06:002013-01-04T16:53:06.376-06:00In 2013, your word of the day has to be "non,...In 2013, your word of the day has to be "non," Sarah. I hate knowing 2012 was your worst year and swear I won't ask you to do a thing for me before 2014.<br /><br />I'm sending you to time-out from being needed.Pat O'Dea Rosenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18221195882816387110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-70734457254856877602013-01-04T16:49:45.483-06:002013-01-04T16:49:45.483-06:00I'm practicing, Emma. Good advice!I'm practicing, Emma. Good advice!Pat O'Dea Rosenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18221195882816387110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-46649679153956042382013-01-04T16:42:51.611-06:002013-01-04T16:42:51.611-06:00Oui (my word of the day.)
I actively and purpose...Oui (my word of the day.) <br /><br />I actively and purposely got rid of toxic people a few years ago, and there were many, and am a happier person for it. <br /><br />But I still can't say 'no' to anyone (friends or strangers) without a crushing sense of guilt. No matter the request (hugely inappropriate, boundary stepping or a small inconsequential thing that I still don't want to do.)<br /><br />I said goodbye to the worst year of my life and all the people and pets who 'needed' me in 2012. I would actually like to take time off from being needed. Just for awhile. :)Sarah Andrehttp://www.sarahandre.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-11882584351387697882013-01-04T05:00:35.820-06:002013-01-04T05:00:35.820-06:00I think getting rid of the toxic people in our liv...I think getting rid of the toxic people in our lives is great advice. And if some of them are people we are related to and can't totally cut out of our lives, then distance is a good thing. I make time for the people who make time for me. And I agree with Sheila, it is harder for us to say no. Maybe we need to practice. :)Emma Burcarthttp://www.emmaburcart.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-1778830112085624842013-01-03T16:54:09.386-06:002013-01-03T16:54:09.386-06:00Loved the link, Pat. I subscribed and hope to be a...Loved the link, Pat. I subscribed and hope to be able to check in regularly.<br /><br />Lark Howardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13363455770588651569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-8508805249882429992013-01-03T16:50:08.698-06:002013-01-03T16:50:08.698-06:00Hear, hear, Sheila. Happy New Year to you, too, an...Hear, hear, Sheila. Happy New Year to you, too, and congrats on the release of THE VALENTINE GRINCH.Pat O'Dea Rosenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18221195882816387110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-59739855249662392842013-01-03T16:15:09.237-06:002013-01-03T16:15:09.237-06:00Pat, even though "no" is probably the fi...Pat, even though "no" is probably the first word most of us ever spoke, it's far easier to say yes than no, especially for a woman. I wonder if it's not one of the major contributors to burnout? Here's to non-toxicity in our lives. :)<br /><br />Happy new year to you and Lark!Sheila Seabrookhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17365100511100802221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-41077391595466819022013-01-03T15:52:52.777-06:002013-01-03T15:52:52.777-06:00Hi, Karen! Did I see a picture of the rock you'...Hi, Karen! Did I see a picture of the rock you're talking about on your blog post yesterday? It looked big enough for both of us. Seriously, though, we can't hide from the toxic types. We have to learn to say no. Meanwhile, let's promise ourselves we won't volunteer for any treasurer jobs. Pat O'Dea Rosenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18221195882816387110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-89706915423088513582013-01-03T15:48:43.553-06:002013-01-03T15:48:43.553-06:00LOL, Jennette! Good luck passing on the treasurer&...LOL, Jennette! Good luck passing on the treasurer's job. I hear you, though. There's always someone or somebody we can't turn down. Your RWA chapter is lucky to have you.Pat O'Dea Rosenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18221195882816387110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-10108569519044108622013-01-03T13:19:58.866-06:002013-01-03T13:19:58.866-06:00Ack, toxic people. They will suck the blood right ...Ack, toxic people. They will suck the blood right out of you if you let them. They are Too...Much...Work! But, why do we attract these people, that's what I want to know. If so, we need to be deprogramed. I say run for the hills Pat! I know where there is a big fat rock upi can hide under! LOL! :)Karen McFarlandhttp://www.karenmcfarland.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-1377888980364508552013-01-03T12:33:00.344-06:002013-01-03T12:33:00.344-06:00I don't have too much trouble saying No to peo...I don't have too much trouble saying No to people like this, but I do find it hard to say no to my RWA chapter. That's getting better - after being treasurer for 10 years (!!!), I told them someone else would need to do it this time when elections came up. Can't wait to pass that on!Jennette Marie Powellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00992037939637425401noreply@blogger.com