tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post2500461698567387899..comments2015-08-04T11:22:09.720-05:00Comments on Reading, Writing, and Rambling: The Feedback Sandwich: Disappearing from a Menu near YouPat O'Dea Rosenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18221195882816387110noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-76642777155564375532013-05-30T08:26:20.746-05:002013-05-30T08:26:20.746-05:00Pat, Thank you for sharing this post. Yes, someti...Pat, Thank you for sharing this post. Yes, sometimes one braces oneself for the negative in the sandwich. But I think the positive feedback is important. Too many times, we forget to praise when praise is due. <br /><br /> I try to use the feedback sandwich when I give a crit on someone's manuscript. But if a person is reeling because they thought their manuscript was perfection, I don't think they hear the positives, sincere or otherwise. <br /><br />Glad you had a good weekend. Lynette M. Burrowshttp://lynettemburrows.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-12201419660837467462013-05-30T08:26:20.332-05:002013-05-30T08:26:20.332-05:00Pat, Thank you for sharing this post. Yes, someti...Pat, Thank you for sharing this post. Yes, sometimes one braces oneself for the negative in the sandwich. But I think the positive feedback is important. Too many times, we forget to praise when praise is due. <br /><br /> I try to use the feedback sandwich when I give a crit on someone's manuscript. But if a person is reeling because they thought their manuscript was perfection, I don't think they hear the positives, sincere or otherwise. <br /><br />Glad you had a good weekend. Lynette M. Burrowshttp://lynettemburrows.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-162153675573395932013-05-28T07:59:26.801-05:002013-05-28T07:59:26.801-05:00It was a terrific weekend, Coleen. I owe it a feed...It was a terrific weekend, Coleen. I owe it a feedback sandwich.Pat O'Dea Rosenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18221195882816387110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-14315230705401730952013-05-28T07:58:21.346-05:002013-05-28T07:58:21.346-05:00Look at you now, Lark. Succeess is the best reveng...Look at you now, Lark. Succeess is the best revenge.<br /><br />You are smart, talented, quick-witted, and fun to be around. I feel sorry for the people who didn't see those qualities in you.<br /><br />Pat O'Dea Rosenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18221195882816387110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-12491799438631765442013-05-28T07:51:20.819-05:002013-05-28T07:51:20.819-05:00Hi, Liz,
Scientists somewhere are working to devel...Hi, Liz,<br />Scientists somewhere are working to develop skin capable of thought, even if it's only, Hmm, I seem to require sunscreen.<br /><br />I like a crusty feedback sandwich. At the time of delivery it may confuse me, but in the wee hours of the morning, I comfort myself with the knowledge I'm punctual or whatever the compliment was.<br /><br />My typos are far worse than yours. Wanna bet?Pat O'Dea Rosenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18221195882816387110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-62731848345471267122013-05-28T07:42:51.193-05:002013-05-28T07:42:51.193-05:00Hi, Jennette,
Has your daughter's graduation c...Hi, Jennette,<br />Has your daughter's graduation come and gone? Yoo hoo for her!<br /><br /><br /><br />Pat O'Dea Rosenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18221195882816387110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-24743087795084612262013-05-26T14:31:54.722-05:002013-05-26T14:31:54.722-05:00I didn't know it was called the Feedback sandw...I didn't know it was called the Feedback sandwich. I remember years ago someone giving me this advice as a way to talk to my kids. Turns out after awhile they get wise to it too. Then start bracing for the criticism. Funny how that works. :) Hope you're having a great weekend, Pat!!Coleen Patrickhttp://coleenpatrick.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-64844350118574162522013-05-24T13:24:25.026-05:002013-05-24T13:24:25.026-05:00Having grown up with nothing but harsh criticism, ...Having grown up with nothing but harsh criticism, I quite like a couple of compliments cushioning the delivery--sincere or not. <br /><br />Have a lovely weekend, Pat!Lark Howardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13363455770588651569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-5896191645936231192013-05-24T10:10:37.769-05:002013-05-24T10:10:37.769-05:00Oh, by the way, I meant THICK skin. I've never...Oh, by the way, I meant THICK skin. I've never developed great typing skills, either...Liz Flahertyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06794565644883272260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-78166029935489902502013-05-24T10:10:01.921-05:002013-05-24T10:10:01.921-05:00Never having developed a think skin (although said...Never having developed a think skin (although said skin is developing MANY wrinkles), I will always appreciate a feedback sandwich, and I'll always serve one, too. I'm not sure I'm actually doing anyone any favors, but I'd a lot rather soft-pedal than discourage anyone.Liz Flahertyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06794565644883272260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-76246068916583423082013-05-24T08:22:06.745-05:002013-05-24T08:22:06.745-05:00Heh, sounds like the letters people get from the c...Heh, sounds like the letters people get from the city in my neighborhood. I do try to give a compliment along with critique, tbough not necessarily a sandwich. Although there are a couple houses near me where it's hard to see the pretty flowers behind the overgrown lawn or too many parked cars that don't run. Have a great holiday weekend!Jennette Marie Powellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00992037939637425401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-65076738511546760382013-05-24T07:32:48.125-05:002013-05-24T07:32:48.125-05:00Hi, Amy,
I was surprised to learn the feedback san...Hi, Amy,<br />I was surprised to learn the feedback sandwich is also known as the criticism sandwich and the compliment sandwich. In that way, it has a lot in common with the hoagie, sub, hero sandwich. <br /><br />Have a good weekend!Pat O'Dea Rosenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18221195882816387110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-67337973670173455482013-05-24T07:29:33.500-05:002013-05-24T07:29:33.500-05:00Hi, Patrick,
I know serving on the HOA board is a ...Hi, Patrick,<br />I know serving on the HOA board is a thankless task. My husband did it and was SO relieved when his term expired. I appreciate what you and other HOA board members do.<br /><br />I wish the letter had been constructed differently. It was sent by a professional management company and could have been worded better. That said, my mailbox is shiny now.. <br /><br />Like everybody else, I make fun of the feedback sandwich, but a person can take heart from encouraging words. I always opened with praise when correcting students' essays. It was sincere, so why not? I like to catch people doing something right.<br /><br />Yes, Houston has Panera. Shoot, now I'm hungry.<br /><br />Enjoy the holiday weekend! Hold off until next weekend to send out letters telling people to paint their mailboxes. Oh, and can you remind them to pick up after their dogs? Thanks!Pat O'Dea Rosenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18221195882816387110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-82748114837722011792013-05-23T11:05:46.796-05:002013-05-23T11:05:46.796-05:00Ha!I remember an episode of some TV show--one of t...Ha!I remember an episode of some TV show--one of the characters tells another that the best way to break up with a girl is to use the compliment sandwich. It's TV, so it backfires on him, of course. aroseisarosenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2140630815526406811.post-31905143257736413872013-05-23T10:47:08.797-05:002013-05-23T10:47:08.797-05:00Hi Pat,
I'm the Vice-President of a HOA. A f...Hi Pat,<br /><br />I'm the Vice-President of a HOA. A few weeks ago, in the Real Estate section (Sunday) of the NY Times there was an article about how difficult it is to be an officer of a HOA. I'll try to find the link for you. I agree that sometimes the Boards of HOA's do issue stupid directives. BTW, your home looks beautiful.<br /><br />I think the feeback "sandwich" is a way of delivering criticism without completely destroying a person - so it's not entirely bad. There are people, especially managers and literary critics who love to destroy people with their barbs - but hopefully they are in the minority.<br /><br />Personally I prefer the country turkey on French bread at Paneras when it comes to sandwiches (do they have Paneras in Houston?).<br /><br /> - PatrickAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com